Couples & Marriage Intensive Retreats
Condensing months of therapy into a powerful and healing weekend
2 & 3-Day Options
Located in beautiful St. Petersburg Florida
Led by Dr. Mary Perleoni & the Team of Relationship Experts at It Begins Within
What is a Marriage or Couples Retreat?
A couples retreat (also referred to as a couples intensive or marriage intensive retreat) is an immersive, multi-day therapy program where couples work intensively with licensed therapists to resolve deep rooted issues and rebuild their relationship, intimacy and connection - often condensing months of progress through traditional therapy into a few focused days.
Unlike weekly therapy sessions that can take months to create meaningful change, marriage retreats provide 16-20+ hours of uninterrupted couples therapy in a private, distraction-free environment. Couples address core issues like communication breakdown, trust violations, intimacy challenges, and destructive conflict patterns using evidence-based approaches including Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT), Gottman Method, somatic experiencing interventions and trauma-informed techniques.
Who Should Consider a Couples Retreat?
Marriage intensives are ideal for couples in crisis (infidelity, disconnection, considering divorce), those who feel stuck despite months of traditional therapy, busy professionals who can't commit to weekly sessions, or partners who need focused intervention before problems become irreparable. Research shows 70-80% success rates for couples committed to the intensive process - most report restored emotional connection, practical communication tools, and renewed hope for their relationship after just days of focused work.
reconnection
infidelity
rekindling intimacy
life transitions
trust breaches
Our Approach at It Begins Within
Four Specialists, One Focused Mission
At It Begins Within, your couples intensive isn't a workshop, a group retreat, or a one-size-fits-all marathon session. It's a deliberately designed clinical intervention created by Dr. Mary Perleoni, a published researcher, practice owner, and professor, who understands that real relational healing requires both depth and precision.
Complete Privacy, Complete Focus
You won't share your story with strangers or wait for your turn in a group setting. Every moment of your intensive is dedicated exclusively to you and your partner. This isn't about community healing - it's about your relationship.
Four Specialists, Working in Concert
Most intensives assign you a single therapist who attempts to address every dimension of your relationship alone. We take a different approach. Dr. Perleoni assembles a team of four clinical specialists, each bringing deep expertise in distinct areas critical to relationship repair and growth. This collaborative model means you're not getting general couples therapy at an accelerated pace—you're receiving targeted intervention from experts who work together to provide rapid discernment and meaningful healing.
When attachment wounds, communication breakdowns, sexual disconnection, and individual trauma all intersect in your relationship, you need more than one perspective. You need a team designed specifically for the complexity of what you're facing.
Condensed Timeline, Lasting Impact
Our 2-3 day format isn't about rushing through surface-level exercises. It's about creating the concentrated space and expert attention that allows breakthroughs to happen—breakthroughs that might take months to achieve in traditional weekly therapy.
Your Expert Team
Healing a relationship requires more than a single perspective, it demands a comprehensive approach that addresses every dimension of your partnership. At It Begins Within, our couples retreats bring together four specialized therapists working in concert to guide your transformation.
Unlike traditional therapy where you see one counselor, our marriage intensive retreats immerse you in a collaborative healing environment. Each member of our expert team contributes their specialized expertise, ensuring no aspect of your relationship goes unaddressed. This integrated approach means you'll receive targeted support for intimacy challenges, communication breakdowns, emotional wounds, and relationship patterns, all within a unified therapeutic experience.
Dr. Mary Perleoni, LMHC
Infidelity & Discernment
Dr. Perleoni integrates CBT, relational therapy, and trauma-informed care to help couples understand the root causes of self-esteem challenges and negative patterns that undermine connection. She guides partners through the discernment process, determining whether to recommit, repair, or consciously separate, creating a foundation for lasting change.
Melissa Zentner, LMHC
Sex & Intimacy Therapist
Melissa addresses one of the most vulnerable aspects of relationships including physical and emotional intimacy. She helps couples navigate desire discrepancies, sexual communication breakdowns, and the deeper emotional barriers that prevent genuine intimate connection.
Amanda Farris, LCSW
Trauma & Somatic Specialist
Amanda focuses on helping couples stay present and regulated during difficult conversations. Her expertise in grounding techniques and relational trauma helps partners break cycles of reactivity, process stored trauma in the body, and create new patterns of healthy interaction.
Tyler MacDonald, LMHC
Resentment Integration
Tyler focuses on roles within the relationship and how unmet expectations, imbalanced labor, and accumulated grievances impact resentment. He helps couples identify the patterns that breed bitterness and create pathways toward appreciation, repair, and sustainable partnership dynamics.
Proven Framework, Personalized Path
Our methodology isn't guesswork, it's a structured framework built on the core pillars that determine whether relationships thrive or fracture: communication patterns, sexual and emotional intimacy, trust and repair, and your shared vision for life and happiness together.
But here's what makes it work - we don't apply this framework uniformly. We use it as a diagnostic lens to understand exactly where your relationship is strong, where it's broken, and where the most critical work needs to happen. Your intensive is then tailored around those findings.
Two couples may both struggle with "communication," but one is dealing with conflict avoidance rooted in childhood attachment trauma while the other is navigating a breach of trust that's poisoned every conversation. They need fundamentally different interventions. Our framework allows us to identify your specific pattern, then build your track, the focused sequence of therapeutic work during your retreat and around what will actually move your relationship forward.
We assess both the challenges threatening your relationship and the strengths you can build from. This isn't about fixing what's broken while ignoring what's working—it's about strategic intervention based on your complete relational reality.
Pre-Retreat Assessments: Getting to the Work That Matters
Your intensive begins before you arrive. In the weeks leading up to your retreat, you'll complete a series of clinical assessments designed to give our team a comprehensive understanding of your relationship dynamics, individual histories, attachment styles, and current crisis points.
This isn't paperwork for the sake of paperwork. These assessments allow us to skip the introductory phase that eats up the first several sessions of traditional therapy. By the time you walk into your first intensive session, your team of specialists has already collaborated on your case, identified the core patterns, and designed your customized track.
You'll be supported throughout the assessment process, this isn't something you're left to navigate alone. The result? When your intensive begins, we're not spending hours gathering background information. We're immediately engaged in the precise therapeutic work your relationship needs.
What Happens at an IBW Couples Retreat? A Day-by-Day Breakdown
Our couples retreats follow a carefully designed four-phase process that addresses your relationship from every angle. Unlike traditional therapy that unfolds over months, our intensive format compresses transformative work into focused, dedicated sessions that build upon each other for rapid, lasting healing.
PHASE 1: COMMENCEMENT SESSION
Getting Everything on the Table
Your retreat begins with both partners together, creating a safe container where everything can be spoken. This isn't about blame or winning arguments, it's about finally being heard. With all four therapists present, we guide you through expressing the pain, frustration, disconnection, and hope you've been carrying. We identify the core patterns that have kept you stuck and establish the foundation for the deep work ahead. By the end of this session, both partners feel seen, understood, and ready to engage in the healing process.
PHASE 2: INDIVIDUAL SESSIONS
Gaining Perspective and Personal Insight
Healing a relationship requires healing the individuals within it. In these dedicated one-on-one sessions with your assigned therapist, each partner explores their own story—the wounds you brought into the relationship, the defenses you've built, and the vulnerabilities you've been afraid to show. This personal work creates crucial perspective: you begin to understand not just what your partner does that hurts you, but why they do it, and how your own patterns contribute to the cycle. These sessions often become turning points where compassion replaces resentment.
PHASE 3: INTIMACY & CONNECTION SESSIONS
Rebuilding Physical and Emotional Closeness
Sexual and physical intimacy often becomes the casualty of relational conflict, yet it's essential for true connection. In this phase, you'll work with our intimacy specialist both individually and as a couple to address the barriers that have created distance in your physical relationship. We explore desire discrepancies, communication about needs, emotional safety, and the vulnerability required for genuine intimacy. These sessions aren't clinical or uncomfortable—they're honest, compassionate conversations that help you rediscover each other and rebuild the closeness you've been missing.
PHASE 4: INTEGRATION & the HEALING PATH FORWARD
Coming Together Transformed
In this final session, we bring everything together. You'll reunite as a couple, but you're not the same people who arrived. Armed with new understanding, tools, and insights from your individual and intimacy work, you'll practice new ways of communicating, establish boundaries and commitments, and create a concrete plan for maintaining the progress you've made. This isn't just a conclusion, it's a roadmap for the relationship you're building together, complete with ongoing support strategies and follow-up care to ensure lasting change.
The Result: Intensive Healing in Days, Not Months
This structured four-phase approach allows couples to accomplish in days what might take months in traditional weekly therapy. By removing distractions, dedicating focused time, and utilizing our team's combined expertise, you'll break through barriers, heal old wounds, and emerge with a stronger, more connected partnership.
Why Our Program is Recognized Nationally
Clinical depth meets retreat environment
Unlike resort-style couples retreats that focus on workshops and activities, our program delivers intensive clinical intervention with evidence-based therapeutic modalities (CBT, EMDR, trauma-informed care, relational therapy) in a restorative setting
Specialized expertise under one roof
Individual therapists, sex and intimacy specialists, relationship counselors, and trauma experts all coordinating your care—no referrals, no fragmented treatment, just comprehensive healing
Privacy and personalization
One couple at a time. Your retreat is designed exclusively for your relationship, with every session customized to your unique challenges, history, and goals
Proven results
Couples who complete our retreat program report significant improvements in communication, intimacy, trust, and overall relationship satisfaction—transformations that typically require months or years of traditional therapy
Couples Retreats vs. Marriage Intensive Therapy
At IBW, we offer both couples retreats and marriage intensive therapy because we understand that different relationships need different approaches. While these terms are often used interchangeably online, they represent distinct therapeutic experiences—and knowing the difference helps you choose what's right for your relationship.
Format and Time Commitment Differences
IBW Couples Retreats are immersive therapeutic experiences designed for couples who want to invest dedicated time in their relationship outside the pressures of daily life. Our retreats span 2-3 days in a peaceful, private setting where you can focus entirely on each other and your relationship. Think of it as stepping away from your life to do deep work, without distractions, without interruptions, just dedicated therapeutic time with our expert team.
IBW Marriage Intensive Therapy follows a similar timeframe but is structured as concentrated clinical sessions, typically conducted in our office setting over 1-2 days. Intensives are laser-focused on crisis intervention and breaking through specific therapeutic barriers with 8 - 14 hours of clinical work.
Both formats compress months of traditional weekly therapy into days, but retreats add the element of environmental change—getting away from your everyday environment can itself be therapeutic, allowing couples to see each other and their relationship with fresh perspective.
Therapeutic Intensity and Clinical Focus
Both our retreats and intensives provide serious clinical intervention with our four-therapist team approach. The core difference lies in setting and therapeutic goals.
Our Couples Retreats are ideal when:
You want deep therapeutic work in a restorative environment
Creating physical and emotional space from daily stressors would benefit your healing
You're addressing significant challenges but also want time to reconnect and remember why you chose each other
The retreat setting itself becomes part of the therapy—peaceful surroundings, uninterrupted time together, and the ability to practice new skills in real-time
You want the full clinical rigor of intensive therapy with the added benefit of environmental change
Our Marriage Intensives are designed for:
Couples in acute crisis who need immediate, concentrated intervention
Situations where clinical focus without environmental variables is preferred
Partners who need maximum therapeutic hours in minimum time
Those who prefer the structure and focus of an office-based setting
Both offerings include our complete four-phase process: commencement session, individual work, intimacy sessions, and integration. Both utilize the same evidence-based clinical approaches and specialized expertise. The primary distinction is whether the retreat environment enhances your therapeutic goals.
Which Option Is Right for Your Situation?
Choose our Couples Retreat if:
You want therapeutic depth with the added benefit of stepping away from your daily environment
Creating physical distance from stress, work, and home responsibilities would help you focus on each other
You want dedicated time to not just work through problems but also reconnect emotionally and physically
The idea of "getting away" to work on your relationship appeals to both partners
You'd benefit from practicing new communication and intimacy skills in a peaceful, private setting removed from daily triggers
Choose our Marriage Intensive if:
You prefer the focused clinical structure of office-based therapy
You need to remain close to home for family or work obligations
You want maximum therapeutic hours without the retreat setting
You prefer clear boundaries between therapeutic work and your personal environment
The intensive format appeals to you but you're not drawn to the retreat aspect
Not sure which is right for you? Many couples struggle with this decision. During your complimentary consultation call, we'll help you determine which format best serves your relationship's unique needs and circumstances.
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Our retreat fee is $12,000 for our 2-day program & $15,000 for our 3-day experience. This includes accommodations.
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Absolutely. While we follow a proven four-phase framework that consistently produces transformational results, every couple's experience within that structure is completely unique and tailored to your specific relationship.
Our framework—commencement session, individual work, intimacy sessions, and integration—provides the clinical structure that ensures comprehensive healing. But within that framework, everything is customized: the therapeutic approaches we emphasize, the issues we prioritize, the pace we maintain, and the tools we teach are all designed specifically for your relationship's challenges, patterns, and goals.
No two couples face identical struggles, and no two retreats look the same. One couple might need extensive trauma work and minimal intimacy focus, while another requires the opposite. Some need help navigating infidelity, others are addressing years of emotional disconnection or addiction. Your retreat adapts to you.
During your initial consultation and throughout your retreat, we're continuously assessing and adjusting our approach based on what your relationship needs most. The structure ensures nothing crucial is overlooked; the customization ensures you get exactly the help you need.
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The honest answer: it depends on both partners' commitment to the process, but we've seen marriages on the brink of divorce transform during our retreats.
A couples retreat can absolutely save a failing marriage when both partners are willing to be vulnerable, do hard work, and genuinely want to find a path forward—even if they're not sure one exists. Many couples arrive at our retreat as a "last attempt" before separation, feeling hopeless and disconnected. What makes the difference is their willingness to show up fully, be honest about their pain, and remain open to change.
What our retreat provides is the intensive clinical intervention, specialized expertise, and concentrated time that failing marriages desperately need but rarely get. Weekly therapy can take months or years to address deep wounds—time that couples in crisis simply don't have. Our retreat compresses that healing into focused days where real breakthroughs happen.
We've helped couples recover from infidelity, betrayal, years of resentment, sexual disconnection, and emotional abandonment. We've worked with partners who arrived barely speaking and left with genuine hope and renewed commitment. But we've also worked with couples who discovered through the retreat that separation was the healthiest choice.
Our goal isn't to save every marriage at all costs—it's to help you find clarity, heal what can be healed, and make the best decision for both of you from a place of understanding rather than pain. For many couples, that means saving and strengthening their marriage. For some, it means conscious, compassionate uncoupling.
If your marriage is failing and you're wondering if there's hope, a retreat can provide the answer—and often, that answer is yes.