I’m more interested in porn than sex with my wife. can you help me?

This is more common than many men realize—and it doesn’t mean something is “wrong” with you or your marriage. Porn can become a way to manage stress, escape emotional pressure, or avoid vulnerability, especially for high-performing men who feel constantly responsible or emotionally guarded.

In therapy, we explore what porn is doing for you—not just the behavior itself. Often, it’s connected to stress, shame, unmet emotional needs, or unresolved experiences. The goal isn’t blame or moral judgment—it’s understanding the pattern and helping you reconnect with intimacy, desire, and real connection in your relationship.

How do I know if I have a porn addiction, or if this is just a bad habit?

Many men ask this question quietly—and the answer isn’t about labels. Porn use becomes a clinical concern when it feels compulsive, secretive, or misaligned with your values, or when it starts affecting your marriage, emotional health, or sense of integrity.

Therapy provides a confidential, judgment-free space to explore this honestly. Together, we look at patterns, triggers, emotional drivers, and the role porn plays in your life. You don’t need to come in knowing the answer—part of the work is discovering it safely and thoughtfully.

Can EMDR help with porn addiction, or is it just for trauma?

Yes—EMDR can be very effective for addressing pornography addiction, especially when the behavior is rooted in past experiences, emotional wounds, or unresolved trauma.

For many men, porn use isn’t about sex—it’s about regulation. EMDR helps target the underlying memories, beliefs, or emotional states that drive compulsive behavior. When those roots are processed, the urge often loses its intensity. This approach focuses on healing, not just behavior control.

My faith is important to me, but my marriage is struggling. Can marriage counseling include faith without being preachy?

Yes. Faith can be thoughtfully and respectfully integrated into marriage counseling when it’s meaningful to you and your spouse. This might include exploring shared values, commitment, forgiveness, boundaries, or spiritual intimacy—without turning therapy into sermons or rigid rules.

Alex works with couples to strengthen emotional safety, communication, and trust, while honoring faith as one part of a larger relational picture.

I’m in Tampa and my marriage looks fine on the outside, but we feel disconnected. Is relationship counseling actually helpful?

Yes. Many couples in Tampa seek relationship counseling not because everything is falling apart, but because they feel emotionally distant, stuck in the same arguments, or unsure how to reconnect despite busy, high-pressure lives. For successful men especially, stress, work demands, and unspoken resentment can quietly erode intimacy over time.

Relationship counseling provides a structured, confidential space to understand what’s happening beneath the surface—how communication patterns, stress, unmet needs, or past wounds are impacting the relationship. Using evidence-based approaches like the Gottman Method and Emotionally Focused Therapy, counseling helps couples rebuild trust, improve emotional connection, and move forward with clarity rather than continuing in quiet frustration.